You heard a voice and it says you are good for nothing, you don’t deserve good things. that’s why you don’t have a good job or friends, that’s why people don’t stay around you. the good and valuable things are not for you. tell me when was the last time you had had these thoughts? and how did you respond to them?
throughout the day you talk with yourself (in your mind) more than with anyone else. your negative and doubtful thoughts keep you awake at night, it never let you sleep. especially it does not have a pause button. it just keeps running in your head just like music.
for instance, you are working on any project or you are under work pressure and you are unable to finish the work in time. in such situations, your inner critic says to you” you can’t finish your work in time, you better give up” nobody knows you can give up.
inner critic starts to appear when you use unkind words, have a negative experience, failure or rejection in such a situation your inner critic becomes louder than usual. what is criticism? it is just disagreement, you judge yourself, you criticize own faults, weaknesses or shortcomings. It is just your evolution about yourself, your strength and weakness. It completely comes from your imagination or from the Past negative experiences. you meet inner criticism at work-place, in a close relationship or even in the interviews.
having continuously negative and doubtful thoughts, sometimes makes you believe what you are not, so be conscious of these thoughts they convince you something you are not. especially in any negative situations learn what are your feeling after having a negative experience, failure or even rejection.
carefully listen to it what type of language tone or words your mind uses when it is criticizing you. it matters what type of language, tone or words you use it for yourself. so knowing the tone of your inner critic puts you in the edge. knowing about your inner critic gives you power over it.
So I would suggest you to learn the pattern of your inner critic. ASK QUESTIONS AND GIVE ANSWERS TO SELF. let’s evaluate your inner critic, HOW IT STARTS, WHEN IT STARTS, HOW LONG DOES IT RUN IN YOUR MIND, WHAT MAKES YOU FEEL TO CRITICIZE YOU. AND ESPECIALLY HOW DO YOU RESPOND TO YOUR INNER CRITIC.
After answering all these questions let’s learn how to deal with it.
after negative experience, failure or rejection your inner critics are going to be loud. it takes a while to process after any negative experience, instantly you can not stop those thoughts but you can have control over them. let them come and let them go.but do not stay in that state for long, do not let them harm you, win over you or do not let your inner critic speak the way it wants. eventually, you will learn to deal with them peacefully.
if your inner critics are loud then my friend your response should be louder and stronger. you need to positively answer your inner critic. rule these thoughts do not let them rule you or convince you something you are not.
so for instance – what would you do when you are walking on the road and somebody attacks you? you pull your all strength and fight back. you don’t use that sympathetic tone “ohh I have been attacked, I don’t know what to do. nobody had taught you how to fight. this is your inner instinct. you have been designed this way to function. that is your first response when someones attacks you (even verbally someone attacks you response this way)
likewise, fight back with your inner critic as it is going to take you surprisingly be prepared to fight back. don’t just let this inner critic rule over you. fight back and win inner critic battle in your mind.